In this article, I’m sharing the full content of one of my most requested videos.
If you want to understand exactly how I went from being a shy, invisible engineer to meeting and connecting with beautiful women all around the world, this is the place to start.
Below, you’ll find the complete script from the video, along with the link to watch it.
I’ve included everything I talked about in the video — my personal story, the exact steps I use to start natural conversations, the biggest mistakes most men make, and the mindset that creates real attraction.
If you prefer reading or want to review the key points at your own pace, this article will guide you through the entire message of the video.
In this video, I’m going to show you exactly how I meet beautiful women — anywhere in the world.
And the best part?
It’s something anyone can learn.
By the end of this video, you’ll understand where to meet women, how to start a conversation naturally, how to build real connection, and how to keep that connection going.
So make sure to watch until the end.
Hi, I’m YASU from Japan.
Thirteen years ago, I couldn’t even say hi to a woman I liked.
I was shy.
I didn’t know what to say.
And honestly, I was scared of rejection.
But today, things are completely different.
Now, I talk to women from all over the world.
From streets in New York to cafes in Tokyo, to beaches in Thailand.
I’ve interviewed more than a thousand people across thirty countries.
And I’ve built a global following of almost one million.
But here’s the truth.
I didn’t start out confident.
I had to train myself — step by step.
Through thousands upon thousands of real interactions — approaching, failing, learning, and trying again.
In this video, I’ll show you exactly how that transformation happened —
and how you can do it too, even if you’re shy, nervous, or think it’s impossible.
Before all of this, I was just a normal guy.
I worked as an engineer in Japan.
Long hours.
Weekends at the office.
Always tired, always stressed.
Back then, I had zero confidence.
I didn’t know how to talk to women.
When I saw someone I liked, my mind froze.
My heart would race, but my body wouldn’t move.
I wanted to connect, but I didn’t know how.
Most days, I felt invisible.
I watched other people laughing, making friends, meeting women.
And I thought, maybe that’s just not for me.
Maybe I’m not the kind of guy who can do that.
But deep down, I didn’t want to give up.
I was tired of feeling stuck.
So one day, I made a decision.
I decided to learn how to communicate — for real.
Not just with women, but with people in general.
I started studying seriously.
I bought several online programs about communication and social confidence — each one costing hundreds of dollars.
Later, I even joined an intensive in-person program that cost around $3,000.
Those programs were actually helpful.
They gave me a structure — a way to understand what makes people connect.
But knowledge alone wasn’t enough.
I had to practice.
At first, I couldn’t even say a single word.
I remember going out into the city, planning to talk to someone — but walking for three hours without saying anything.
I went home frustrated.
Then I did the same thing again the next day.
And the next.
Three days in a row, not a single word.
On the fourth day, I told myself, “Today, I’ll do it — no matter what.”
I walked for hours through the streets of Tokyo until I finally saw a woman I wanted to talk to.
I took a deep breath, walked up, and said, “Hello.”
But my voice was so quiet that she didn’t even hear me.
That’s where I started.
From that moment, I decided to keep going.
Step by step, I began to overcome the fear.
Every small attempt made me a little stronger.
And little by little, that’s how my confidence started to grow.
After studying all those programs and testing everything in the real world, I realized something important.
Social confidence isn’t something you buy.
It’s something you build.
And that means anyone can learn it.
I used to think that confident people were just born that way.
They had some natural charm or talent that I didn’t.
But I was wrong.
Confidence isn’t a gift — it’s a muscle.
You grow it by using it.
So I trained myself every single day.
At first, I set a simple goal — talk to one stranger a day.
Then it became two.
Then five.
And over time, those numbers added up.
Today, I’ve spoken with more than twenty thousand people — men, women, young, old, from all kinds of backgrounds.
Of course, many of them were beautiful women, and I built some amazing relationships.
But I also made a lot of genuine friends — including many great guys I still hang out with today.
In the beginning, I started approaching people in Tokyo.
But soon, I wanted to push myself further.
Even though my English wasn’t perfect, I began talking to foreigners — on the streets, in cafes, at events.
Eventually, I took it to the next level.
I started approaching people overseas — in the US, the UK, Australia, and Thailand. — anywhere I went.
Through all those experiences, I got real results.
I overcame my fear.
I connected with amazing people.
And I reached a point where I felt completely satisfied — not just from meeting women, but from growing as a person.
That’s when my purpose started to change.
I realized I wanted to help others do the same.
I wanted to share what I had learned — everything about communication, confidence, and connection.
So I started teaching.
I created online courses and began helping men who felt just like I once did.
Later, I also started filming interview videos with women around the world.
Not just for entertainment — but to inspire others.
To show that even if you’re not a native English speaker, even if you’re Asian, you can still connect with beautiful women — if you have the right mindset, communication skills, and courage.
Now, my channel has over one hundred and twenty thousand subscribers.
Across TikTok and Instagram, I have almost one million followers in total.
And every day, I receive messages from people all over the world.
They ask me, “How do you meet beautiful women?”
“How do you start the first conversation?”
“How do you build that kind of connection?”
I get those questions every single day.
And that’s exactly why I made this video — to finally share the real answer.
So in this video, I’ll walk you through the exact steps I use to meet and talk to women — naturally, anywhere in the world.
No tricks.
No pickup lines.
Just real human connection.
Because once you understand the process, and practice it the right way, talking to anyone — even the most beautiful woman — becomes simple and natural.
Here’s the step-by-step process that completely changed my life.
Step 1: Choose the Right Environment.
This is where most guys make their first mistake.
They spend hours online, sending random messages or DMs to women they’ve never met.
But here’s the truth.
DMs almost never work.
Because women don’t feel safe or connected through a message from a stranger.
If you really want to meet people, do it in the real world.
Go where conversations already happen naturally.
Cafes. Parks. Travel spots. Hostels. Beaches.
In those places, people are relaxed.
They’re not in a rush.
They’re open to meeting new people.
That’s where natural conversations begin.
Step 2: Approach with Calm Energy.
When you walk up to someone, remember — your goal isn’t to impress her.
Your goal is to make her feel comfortable.
That starts with your body language.
Relax your shoulders.
Keep your hands visible.
Have a soft smile.
Stand tall, but not stiff.
Maintain a comfortable distance — about one arm’s length.
Too close, and it can feel pushy.
Too far, and it feels disconnected.
You want to give her space while still being present.
Speak slowly and clearly.
Use a natural voice — not too soft, not too loud.
If your voice is too quiet, she might not even hear you, and it can seem like you lack confidence.
If it’s too loud, it can feel aggressive or awkward.
Aim for a calm, steady tone that matches your relaxed energy.
You don’t need to act high-energy or overly confident.
When you are calm, she feels calm too.
If she steps back or seems uncomfortable, give more space or wrap it up politely.
Step 3: Start with What You Notice.
When you open a conversation, start with something you notice — something simple and real.
It could be about the moment, or about her style or vibe — but not her body or face.
In many cultures, commenting directly on someone’s appearance — like their body, skin, or face — can feel too personal, especially at the beginning.
But mentioning something she’s wearing, or the energy she gives off, can be a great way to start.
You can say something simple, like:
“Hey, I just noticed your T-shirt — that design is really cool.”
Or,
“Your sunglasses look great — where did you get them?”
Or even,
“You look really happy today — probably the happiest person in this whole city. Did something good happen?”
These are light, positive comments about her style or mood, not her looks.
They make her feel noticed and appreciated, without pressure.
And from there, you can easily build the conversation.
For example, if she says, “Oh, I got this in Paris,” you can reply,
“Really? I love Paris. Did you go there recently?”
Now you’ve got a real conversation going — something personal, but still natural.
Remember, women are usually most comfortable talking about themselves or their surroundings, especially when they first meet someone.
So make it easy for her to talk.
Notice something small, be genuine, and let the conversation grow from there.
And always keep this in mind:
You don’t need a perfect line.
You just need the courage to start.
Step 4: Listen More Than You Talk.
Once the conversation begins, your main focus should be on listening — not talking.
You don’t need to impress her with clever lines or deep questions.
What matters most is showing that you can actually have a natural back-and-forth.
Many guys try to think of the “perfect” question to ask.
But the truth is, you don’t need one.
You just need to listen carefully to what she says — and build from there.
It doesn’t matter whether your question is open or closed.
What matters is how you respond to her answer.
That’s what shows real communication skill.
For example, if she says, “I come here a lot,”
you could say,
“This area has such a nice atmosphere. I like walking around here too.”
If she replies, “Yeah, I like walking,”
you might say,
“I can tell — you look like someone who enjoys staying active.”
Simple, natural, and easy to answer.
That’s how good conversation flows.
On the other hand, if you suddenly change topics or ignore what she said,
she’ll feel like you’re not really listening.
And she’ll think, “We just don’t connect.”
At the beginning, avoid questions that are too deep or hard to answer.
Keep it light, easy, and comfortable.
Your goal is to make her feel good talking to you.
Let her speak more.
React to what she says.
Smile, nod, and give short responses that show interest — like “Really?”, “That’s cool,” or “I get that.”
When you make someone feel heard, they naturally open up.
They feel seen.
They feel relaxed.
And that’s what creates attraction — not fancy stories, not humor, but presence.
So talk less, listen more, and help her enjoy the conversation.
That’s the real secret.
Step 5: End Gracefully.
When you listen well, you’ll naturally feel when it’s time to end the conversation.
Not every interaction will turn into something big — and that’s completely okay.
If the vibe feels good, keep talking.
Maybe exchange contacts.
Maybe grab a coffee.
But if it doesn’t, don’t force it.
Just smile and say,
“Nice talking to you.”
Then walk away calmly.
There’s an important reason for this.
Of course, you want to leave a good impression — so the other person feels respected and comfortable.
But it’s also for you.
If you walk away with a negative attitude — maybe feeling frustrated or disappointed — it hurts your own mindset.
Your self-image drops.
And the next time you approach someone, you’ll carry that negative energy with you.
But when you end the conversation with gratitude — with a simple smile and a sincere, “Thanks, have a nice day,” — something changes.
You feel good about yourself.
You stay positive.
And that positive energy makes your next approach easier, more natural, and more confident.
Confidence isn’t about the outcome.
It’s about trying.
It’s about showing up — even when you don’t know what will happen.
Every time you approach someone, you grow stronger.
You train your communication muscle.
And over time, talking to people — even beautiful women — becomes second nature.
Of course, even when you know the steps, most guys still struggle — because of a few common mistakes.
Now, let’s talk about some of the biggest mistakes most men make. These are the same mistakes I used to make too. If you can avoid them, your progress will be ten times faster.
Mistake 1: Overthinking Every Approach.
You see a woman you want to talk to.
And then your mind starts running a hundred thoughts per second.
“What should I say?”
“What if she rejects me?”
“What if people around are watching?”
You wait.
You hesitate.
And by the time you finally decide to move — she’s gone.
Overthinking kills more opportunities than rejection ever will.
You don’t need the perfect words.
You just need to start.
Because action creates confidence — not the other way around.
Mistake 2: Talking Too Fast or Too Much.
Many guys think talking more will make them seem confident.
But it’s the opposite.
When you speak too fast, it shows you’re nervous.
When you talk too much, it feels like you’re trying to prove something.
Slow down.
Take pauses.
Ask questions.
Let the conversation breathe.
Confidence isn’t loud.
Confidence is calm.
Mistake 3: Relying on Instagram DMs Instead of Real Connection.
In today’s world, this one is huge.
Most men spend hours sending messages to women online — hoping for replies.
But messages can’t show your real energy.
They can’t show your voice, your body language, or your presence.
And for women, random DMs often feel uncomfortable or unsafe.
Real connection happens in the real world.
Where your energy can be felt.
Where your smile, your calmness, and your respect are real.
Use social media to stay connected — not to replace connection.
If you do exchange Instagram, keep it light and respectful.
Mistake 4: Giving Up After Rejection.
This is where most guys stop.
They talk to one woman, it doesn’t go well, and they think,
“See? I knew I wasn’t good at this.”
But here’s the truth.
Everyone gets rejected.
Even me.
Let me tell you a short story.
When I first started, I was in Tokyo, Japan.
I saw a girl walking on the street.
I took a deep breath, walked over, talked to her.
But she rejected.
At that moment, I felt embarrassed.
I walked away thinking I’d failed.
But a few minutes later, I realized something important.
Nothing bad had actually happened.
I didn’t lose anything.
And the next time I approached someone, it felt a little easier.
Every rejection is just practice.
Every “no” brings you closer to a “yes.”
Confidence isn’t built by avoiding failure.
It’s built by facing it — again and again — until it stops scaring you.
Mistake 5: Relying on Prepared Lines or Pickup Scripts.
Another big mistake many men make is trying to memorize what to say.
They prepare lines, jokes, or “pickup phrases” — and then try to use them in every situation.
But here’s the problem.
When you focus on saying something you prepared, you stop listening.
You’re not reacting to the woman in front of you — you’re just waiting for your turn to speak.
And when that happens, the conversation stops flowing.
She’ll quickly feel like, “We don’t really connect.”
That’s why I never recommend using pickup lines or memorized phrases.
They make you sound rehearsed instead of real.
Online, you might see flashy videos — guys saying funny or bold pickup lines, getting reactions from women.
But remember, most of those videos are made for views.
They’re performing for the audience, not genuinely connecting with the woman.
Real success in communication is usually much more subtle.
It’s not about being entertaining.
It’s about making the other person feel comfortable.
Of course, sometimes a pickup line can work — if the vibe is right and the other person is playful.
But if her reaction isn’t good, continuing to push your line will only make it worse.
The truth is, there’s no magic sentence that works for every woman.
What matters is how you adapt.
Listen to her, pick up her words, and build from there.
That’s what makes a conversation flow naturally.
Mistake 6: Focusing Only on Words — Ignoring Nonverbal Communication and Real Practice.
Another mistake is paying attention only to what a woman says — and ignoring everything else.
A woman’s real feelings aren’t always in her words.
They’re in her tone of voice, her facial expressions, her body language, her distance, her energy.
She might say, “That was fun,” but her eyes or posture might tell you something different.
Especially women with good communication skills — they can be polite, even when they’re not interested.
Learning to read those subtle signals takes experience.
And that’s why communication is a skill, not just knowledge.
It’s just like sports.
A boy who wants to become a professional baseball player won’t get there just by watching videos of home runs.
He has to go outside, play catch, and practice hitting every day.
Knowledge helps — of course.
You need to understand the rules, the techniques, the strategy.
But what truly makes you better is repetition.
Real conversations.
Real people.
Real mistakes.
That’s how your communication instinct grows.
And that’s how you become truly confident — naturally.
So if you make mistakes, that’s okay. I still do sometimes. The key is to keep going. Because the men who improve… are simply the ones who don’t stop trying.
At the end of the day, everything I’ve shared comes down to one simple idea.
It’s not about being perfect.
It’s about being real.
Most men try too hard to say the “right” thing.
They worry about every word, every small mistake.
But women don’t remember exactly what you said —
they remember how you made them feel.
Did she feel relaxed around you?
Did she feel safe, respected, and comfortable?
Did you make her smile — not because of a joke, but because your energy was calm and kind?
That’s what really matters.
You don’t need to be rich, tall, or famous.
You just need to be calm, kind, and curious.
Because when you’re truly curious, you stop worrying about yourself.
You stop thinking, “Am I saying the right thing?” or “Does she like me?”
Instead, your focus shifts to her — to understanding the person in front of you.
And that kind of curiosity naturally shows confidence.
It tells her, “I’m comfortable being myself, and I’m genuinely interested in you.”
Kindness builds trust.
Calmness makes people feel safe.
And genuine curiosity makes connection effortless.
When you combine those three, people can feel it.
They want to talk to you.
They want to be around you.
When you show up with real energy, people sense it instantly.
You don’t need to force connection — it happens naturally.
That’s the real secret.
Not tricks.
Not lines.
Just presence.
Real human presence.
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